Many relationship breakups involve conflict around money. Many women who go through a breakup, especially when there are children involved, are financially dependent on their former partner in some way. When one person moves out the bills don’t suddenly reduce by 50%. That’s reality. When there is a tug of war over money, typical thoughts might include: “He/she shouldn’t do this” “He/she should be responsible and pay their share” “This shouldn’t be happening to me” "Life's not fair" And because our thoughts create our feelings, we might feel: Frustration Anger Fear Sadness Bitterness Helplessness Powerlessness And when we think these thoughts and feel these feelings how do we act? We might lament our situation to friends. Or feel sorry for ourselves and behave like a victim. Or worry ourselves into a frenzy. Or drive ourselves crazy thinking up new ways we can “make” our ex behave the way we want them to. And the result we will most likely get? More of the same. We continue the cycle and prove that: “life’s not fair”. But what if it’s all a lie? What if it’s simply not true that we must rely on another person for money, or anything else for that matter? What if the truth is that we are far more resourceful than we give ourselves credit for? We just don’t know it yet. What if we believed the thought: “I can trust myself to create everything I need.” What if we trusted that the universe is on our side and just waiting for us to recognise this truth? How might this change things for us? For starters, our feelings would change. More along the lines of: Empowerment Relief Trust Confidence Motivation Self-Reliance Self-Respect And our mind would do its work to find evidence for the new thought (that’s the mind’s job – to prove our thoughts right). If we truly believed this thought what kinds of actions might we take? And what results could we possibly create? Where in your life are you not giving yourself the credit you deserve? What if "I Need ME to Save Me" is the truth? |
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